Presenting Difficulties

Our psychotherapists and psychologists can support individuals and couples facing the difficulties described below, among other.

  • Adenomyosis is a condition in which the tissue that lines the uterus (endometrium) grows into the muscular wall of the uterus (myometrium). This can cause the uterus to become enlarged, tender, and painful, particularly during menstruation. Symptoms may include heavy or prolonged menstrual bleeding, severe menstrual cramps, and pain during intercourse. Adenomyosis can sometimes coexist with endometriosis and can impact fertility. Treatment options range from pain management to hormonal therapies and, in severe cases, surgery.

    Endometriosis is a chronic condition in which tissue similar to the lining of the uterus (endometrium) grows outside the uterus, commonly on the ovaries, fallopian tubes, and pelvic lining. This misplaced tissue responds to hormonal changes, causing inflammation, pain, and the formation of scar tissue. Symptoms of endometriosis can vary but often include pelvic pain, painful periods, infertility, and pain during intercourse. Treatment options include pain management, hormonal therapies, and surgical interventions.

    Adenomyosis and endometriosis can be emotionally challenging due to chronic pain, fertility concerns, disruption of daily life, and treatment challenges. Individuals may experience frustration, sadness, and anxiety while managing the symptoms and seeking effective treatment. Emotional support from support groups and a psychotherapist can be helpful in managing these challenges.

  • Antenatal issues refer to medical or pregnancy-related complications that arise during the period of pregnancy before childbirth. These issues can include conditions such as gestational diabetes, preeclampsia (high blood pressure during pregnancy), placenta previa (placenta covering the cervix), fetal growth restriction, multiple pregnancies (twins, triplets), or other complications that may affect the health of the mother or fetus. Antenatal issues require close monitoring by healthcare professionals and may necessitate specialized care or interventions to ensure the well-being of both the mother and the baby.

    Antenatal issues can be emotionally challenging as expectant parents may experience heightened anxiety, fear for the health and well-being of their baby, and uncertainty about the future. It can be an emotional rollercoaster as they navigate medical appointments, tests, and potential interventions. Emotional support from support groups or a psychotherapist can provide comfort and reassurance during this time.

  • Birth trauma refers to physical injuries or emotional distress experienced by a baby or mother during the process of labour and delivery. It can occur due to various factors, such as prolonged or difficult labour, large baby size, abnormal presentation (breech, transverse), the use of forceps or vacuum extraction, or medical complications during childbirth. Birth trauma can result in injuries to the baby, such as bruising, fractures, or nerve damage, or physical and emotional distress for the mother.

    Experiencing a traumatic birth can have long-lasting emotional effects on individuals and couples. It may lead to feelings of guilt, anger, disappointment, and even postpartum depression or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Processing the trauma through psychotherapy and seeking emotional support is essential in healing and moving forward.

  • A child-free lifestyle is a personal choice made by individuals or couples to not have children. It may be a decision influenced by various factors, such as career aspirations, personal goals, lifestyle preferences, health concerns, or a lack of desire to raise children. Those who choose a child-free lifestyle may focus on other aspects of life, such as building careers, pursuing hobbies, traveling, or contributing to society in different ways.

    Choosing a child-free lifestyle can be emotionally challenging due to societal expectations, pressure from family or friends, and feelings of doubt or questioning one's decision. Individuals may face a sense of loss or grief for the life they imagined but ultimately find fulfilment and happiness in their chosen path. Validation and support from a psychotherapist or support groups can be helpful in navigating these emotions.

    Fertility Support offers group therapy sessions for individuals considering the important question of whether to become a parent or not. We will carry out a considered, thoughtful and compassionate exploration of the parenthood question. We will discuss questions such: Why am I indecisive about having a baby? Is it normal not to want children? What if I want them later? Do I want children because society tells me everyone wants them? You can find more information here.

  • Childlessness refers to individuals or couples who desire to have children but are unable to conceive or carry a pregnancy. It can be due to infertility, medical conditions, or other factors that prevent them from having biological or adopted children. Individuals or couples who are childless may experience grief, frustration, and the need for emotional support as they navigate the challenges of trying to start a family and explore alternative paths to parenthood.

    A childless lifestyle is emotionally challenging. It may involve feelings of sadness, longing, and a sense of loss for the desired family experience. Seeking emotional support from support groups, or psychotherapy can assist in processing these emotions and exploring alternative paths to fulfilment.

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  • Conception through donation refers to the use of donated sperm, eggs, or embryos to achieve pregnancy. Donated sperm can be used in various procedures, such as intrauterine insemination (IUI) or IVF, to fertilize the woman's eggs. Donated eggs may be used by individuals or couples who cannot produce viable eggs, have a high risk of passing on genetic disorders, or experience recurrent pregnancy loss. Embryo donation involves the transfer of embryos that were created by another individual or couple but are no longer needed for their own family-building goals.

    Conceiving through donation, whether it be sperm, egg, or embryo donation, can present emotional challenges related to issues of identity, genetic connection, and disclosure. Individuals and couples may grapple with feelings of loss, grief, and the need to navigate complex family dynamics. Open and honest communication, as well as professional support, are crucial in managing these challenges.

  • Female infertility can occur due to various issues, including adenomyosis, endometriosis, polycystic ovary syndrome and primary ovarian insufficiency, which are discussed on this page. Additional causes of female infertility include:

    Autoimmune disorders: Autoimmune conditions occur when the immune system mistakenly attacks healthy body tissues. Certain autoimmune disorders, like antiphospholipid syndrome, can cause the immune system to attack the lining of blood vessels, increasing the risk of blood clots. This can lead to complications in pregnancy, such as recurrent miscarriages or difficulties with implantation.

    Fallopian tube blockage: The fallopian tubes serve as a pathway for the egg to travel from the ovaries to the uterus. If these tubes are blocked or damaged due to infections, pelvic inflammatory disease, or previous surgeries, it can hinder the journey of sperm to meet the egg or prevent the fertilized egg from reaching the uterus for implantation.

    Hormonal imbalances: Hormones play a crucial role in regulating the menstrual cycle and ovulation. When there is an imbalance in hormone levels, it can disrupt the natural process of releasing an egg from the ovaries, making it difficult for conception to occur. Factors like stress, certain medical conditions, or even excessive exercise can contribute to hormonal imbalances.

    Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID): PID is an infection of the female reproductive organs, often caused by sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like chlamydia or gonorrhoea. If left untreated, these infections can lead to scarring and damage to the fallopian tubes, making it difficult for sperm to reach the egg or for a fertilized egg to travel to the uterus.

    Thyroid disorders: The thyroid gland releases hormones that regulate metabolism and play a role in reproductive function. When the thyroid is underactive (hypothyroidism) or overactive (hyperthyroidism), it can disrupt the menstrual cycle and affect fertility by interfering with hormone production.

    Uterine abnormalities: The uterus, or womb, is where a fertilized egg implants and develops into a pregnancy. Structural abnormalities like fibroids (noncancerous growths in the uterus) or polyps (small benign growths) can interfere with the implantation process or affect the development of the embryo.

    Female infertility can bring about profound emotional consequences. The inability to conceive can trigger feelings of grief and loss, as women mourn the loss of their envisioned future. This can lead to heightened levels of stress, anxiety, and depression. The constant uncertainty, medical procedures, and emotional fluctuations associated with infertility can also take their toll. Women may also experience guilt and shame, blaming themselves for their inability to conceive. Additionally, social isolation, strained relationships, and a sense of losing control further contribute to the emotional burden of female infertility. It is essential for women to seek emotional support through psychotherapy, support groups, and open communication in order to effectively cope with these challenges.

  • A high-risk pregnancy refers to a situation where the mother or baby has an increased chance of experiencing complications during pregnancy, labour, or delivery. Factors that can contribute to a high-risk pregnancy include maternal age (over 35 or under 18), pre-existing medical conditions (such as diabetes, hypertension, or autoimmune disorders), multiple pregnancies (twins, triplets), previous pregnancy complications (preterm birth, preeclampsia), or fetal abnormalities. High-risk pregnancies require close monitoring by healthcare professionals and may involve specialized care or interventions to ensure the best possible outcomes.

    A high-risk pregnancy can bring significant emotional challenges due to increased anxiety, fear for the health and safety of the mother and baby, and the need for additional medical interventions. Expectant parents may experience a range of emotions, including stress, worry, and a sense of loss for the idealized pregnancy experience. Emotional support from support groups or a psychotherapist can be crucial during this time.

  • IVF is a complex assisted reproductive technology (ART) procedure used to help individuals or couples with fertility issues conceive a child. It involves the retrieval of eggs from the ovaries, which are then fertilized with sperm in a laboratory setting. The resulting embryos are monitored for a few days before being transferred back into the uterus. IVF may also involve the use of donor eggs, sperm, or embryos. It is commonly used for various reasons, such as blocked fallopian tubes, advanced maternal age, male factor infertility, or unexplained infertility.

    Going through IVF can be emotionally challenging due to the physical and hormonal demands of the process, the uncertainty of its success, and the financial burden it may impose. It can bring a mix of hope and anxiety, as individuals and couples invest time, energy, and emotions into the procedure, with the possibility of disappointment if it doesn't result in a successful pregnancy.

  • Attitudes towards parenthood within the LGBTQ+ community have evolved significantly over time, reflecting a growing acceptance and understanding of diverse family structures. In the past, societal norms and legal barriers often limited the possibilities for LGBTQ+ individuals and couples to become parents. While there is still a long path ahead to achieve full equality, it is important to recognize the recent advancement towards inclusivity and recognition of the right to parenthood for all individuals, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

    With the advancement of LGBTQ+ rights and legal protections, more options for family building have become available, including adoption. Further, LGBTQ+ individuals and couples now have greater access to assisted reproductive technologies, such as IVF, surrogacy, and sperm or egg donation. These developments have opened up more opportunities for LGBTQ+ individuals to fulfil their desires for parenthood.

    For those LGBTQ+ individuals who want to become parents, the emotional repercussions of a fertility journey are diverse and profound. Emotions like hope, anticipation and joy unite these individuals. But they can also experience disappointment and, in some instances, discrimination. While UK regulations guarantee that all LGBTQ+ individuals have the right to access IVF, surrogacy, and other fertility treatments without facing discrimination, discrimination does happen at the individual level. This discrimination can make an already complex fertility journey even more difficult, surfacing feelings of frustration, isolation, otherness, anxiety, and discouragement, among others emotions.

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  • Male infertility can occur due to various issues, including the following:

    Abnormal sperm morphology (teratospermia): Abnormal sperm morphology refers to the presence of a high percentage of abnormally shaped sperm. This can affect the sperm's ability to fertilize an egg.

    Erectile dysfunction: Erectile dysfunction is a condition in which a man consistently has difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection sufficient for sexual activity. It can be caused by various factors, including physical conditions (such as cardiovascular disease, diabetes, or hormonal imbalances), psychological factors (such as stress, anxiety, or depression), or a combination of both. Treatment options for ED include lifestyle changes, medications, counselling, or the use of medical devices, depending on the underlying cause.

    Low sperm count (oligospermia): Low sperm count refers to a lower-than-normal number of sperm cells present in a semen sample. A low sperm count can reduce the chances of successful fertilization as there are fewer sperm available to reach the egg.

    Poor sperm motility (asthenospermia): Poor sperm motility refers to decreased sperm movement or reduced ability of sperm to swim effectively. It can hinder the sperm's ability to reach and penetrate the egg for fertilization.

    Retrograde ejaculation: Retrograde ejaculation occurs when semen is ejaculated into the bladder instead of through the penis. This can result in a reduced amount of sperm available for fertilization.

    Male infertility can be emotionally challenging for individuals and their partners as it may lead to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and a sense of loss. Men may experience a range of emotions, including frustration and disappointment, as they navigate the diagnosis and potential treatments. Open and empathetic communication, as well as seeking support from a psychotherapist, can be crucial in addressing these emotional challenges.

  • Pregnancy loss refers to the situation where a pregnancy ends before the fetus reaches viability and is unable to survive outside the womb. It can occur due to various factors, including natural causes, medical conditions, or complications during pregnancy.

    Pregnancy loss can be emotionally devastating, causing feelings of grief, sadness, and profound loss. Individuals and couples may experience a range of emotions, including guilt, anger, and confusion. Having a strong support system, including a psychotherapist and support groups, can aid in the grieving and healing process.

    Pregnancy loss can encompass several different scenarios including but not limited to the ones below:

    Chemical pregnancy: Also known as an early miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy refers to a very early pregnancy loss that occurs shortly after implantation. It typically happens before or around the time a woman would expect her menstrual period. The loss may be detected through a positive pregnancy test followed by a negative test or a slightly delayed period. Chemical pregnancies often occur due to chromosomal abnormalities in the embryo.

    Ectopic pregnancy: An ectopic pregnancy occurs when a fertilized egg implants and grows outside the uterus, typically in the fallopian tube. This type of pregnancy is not viable and can be life-threatening for the mother if left untreated. Ectopic pregnancies require immediate medical attention and intervention to prevent complications.

    Late-term miscarriage: While a miscarriage is typically defined as occurring before 20 weeks of gestation, a late-term miscarriage refers to the loss of a pregnancy between 16 and 23 weeks. Late-term miscarriages may be caused by factors such as cervical insufficiency, infections, placental problems, or medical conditions in the mother. They often involve labour and delivery, and the baby may be too premature to survive outside the womb.

    Miscarriage: A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy before 20 weeks of gestation. It can happen for various reasons, including genetic abnormalities, hormonal imbalances, uterine abnormalities, infections, or medical conditions. Symptoms may include vaginal bleeding, cramping, and the passing of tissue. Miscarriages can occur at any stage during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy.

    Molar pregnancy: A molar pregnancy, also known as gestational trophoblastic disease, is an abnormal pregnancy where a non-viable fertilized egg implants in the uterus and forms a tumour-like mass. It occurs due to genetic abnormalities in the fertilized egg, and the resulting pregnancy cannot develop into a normal fetus. Molar pregnancies may present with symptoms such as vaginal bleeding, severe nausea and vomiting, and enlarged uterus.

    Multiple pregnancy loss: Some individuals may experience recurrent pregnancy loss, which refers to the unfortunate occurrence of three or more consecutive pregnancy losses. Multiple pregnancy losses can be caused by various factors, including genetic abnormalities, hormonal imbalances, uterine abnormalities, infections, autoimmune disorders, or other medical conditions. Specialized medical evaluation and treatment may be necessary to identify and address the underlying causes.

    Stillbirth: A stillbirth refers to the loss of a baby after 20 weeks of gestation, before or during delivery. It is a devastating event for families as it involves the loss of a baby who was expected to be born alive. Stillbirths can occur due to complications with the placenta, maternal health conditions, infections, genetic abnormalities, or unexplained causes. Support and counselling are crucial for parents who experience stillbirth.

  • PCOS is a hormonal disorder that affects the reproductive age group of women. It is characterized by an imbalance of reproductive hormones, leading to the development of small cysts on the ovaries. Symptoms may include irregular or absent menstrual periods, excess hair growth, acne, weight gain, and fertility issues. PCOS is often associated with insulin resistance and can increase the risk of developing long-term health conditions such as type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Treatment focuses on managing symptoms, promoting hormonal balance, and addressing underlying health concerns.

    PCOS can be emotionally challenging due to its impact on fertility, hormonal imbalances, and potential physical symptoms. Individuals may feel frustrated, anxious, and even self-conscious about their appearance. Emotional support from psychotherapists and support groups is important in addressing these emotional challenges, understanding the condition, and managing its effects on overall well-being.

  • Postpartum depression, often referred to as PPD, is a type of depression that some new mothers experience after (and in some cases before) the birth of their baby. Research suggests that postpartum depression affects approximately 15-20% of women. This percentage highlights the significant number of new mothers who may encounter this condition.

    Feeling overwhelmed, sad, or anxious as a new mother is a common experience, but when these emotions persist and start to interfere with your everyday life and bonding with your baby, it could be a sign of PPD. In fact, PPD is characterized by a persistent and debilitating state of sadness, lethargy, and emotional distress that significantly impacts a woman's overall well-being and ability to function effectively in her daily life. Unlike the "baby blues," which is a mild and transient condition that typically resolves within a few weeks after delivery, postpartum depression persists for a longer duration, often extending for several months or even up to a year if left untreated.

    The causes of postpartum depression can encompass a combination of biological, hormonal, psychological, and social factors. The drastic hormonal fluctuations that occur during and after pregnancy, combined with sleep deprivation, physical exhaustion, and the emotional adjustments that accompany the transition to motherhood, can render women susceptible to the development of this mental health condition.

    It is crucial to recognize that postpartum depression is a legitimate and serious condition that requires professional attention and treatment. Many other mothers face similar challenges, and there's support available to help. Timely intervention is essential not only for the well-being of the affected mother but also for the healthy development of the mother-child bond and the overall family dynamic.

    Therefore, seeking support from healthcare professionals, such as psychotherapists, obstetricians, or gynaecologists who possess expertise in perinatal mental health is highly recommended. These professionals can offer appropriate therapeutic interventions, and guide women and their families through the journey of recovery. With the right support, women who experience postpartum depression can regain their emotional well-being, nurture their connection with their child, and embrace the joys of motherhood.

  • Primary ovarian insufficiency, also known as premature ovarian failure, is a condition in which the ovaries stop functioning normally before the age of 40. It is characterized by a decrease in the production of eggs and hormone levels, leading to infertility or difficulty in conceiving. The exact cause of POI is often unknown, but it is believed to be related to autoimmune disorders, genetic factors, or certain medical treatments such as chemotherapy or radiation therapy. Symptoms may include irregular or absent periods, hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, and mood changes. While it is possible for some women with POI to still conceive naturally, the chances are significantly reduced. Assisted reproductive technologies, such as in vitro fertilization (IVF) using donor eggs, can be options for women with POI who wish to become pregnant.

    Primary ovarian insufficiency can be emotionally challenging as individuals face the potential loss of fertility. It may involve feelings of grief, sadness, and a sense of loss for the ability to conceive naturally. Seeking emotional support from healthcare professionals, support groups, and loved ones can aid in navigating these emotions and exploring alternative paths to parenthood if desired.

  • Surrogacy is an arrangement in which a woman, known as a surrogate or gestational carrier, carries a pregnancy on behalf of another person or couple. In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate carries an embryo created through IVF using either the intended parents' eggs and sperm or donated eggs and sperm. The surrogate has no genetic relationship to the child. Surrogacy can be an option for individuals or couples who are unable to carry a pregnancy themselves due to medical conditions, uterine abnormalities, or other reasons.

    The emotional challenges of surrogacy stem from the complex dynamics involved. Intended parents may face feelings of helplessness, anxiety, and uncertainty as they navigate the process and entrust their dreams of parenthood to another person. The surrogate may experience a range of emotions, including attachment concerns and the need for ongoing communication and support.

  • Termination, also known as abortion, refers to the deliberate ending of a pregnancy before the fetus can survive outside the womb. It can be performed for various reasons, including medical, personal, or socioeconomic factors. Termination procedures can be surgical or medical, depending on the gestational age and the specific circumstances.

    Termination of a pregnancy can be an emotionally challenging decision for individuals or couples. It may involve complex emotions, including guilt, grief, and a sense of loss. Access to non-judgmental psychotherapy and support services is important in navigating the emotions surrounding this decision and the potential grief that may follow.

  • Unexplained infertility is a diagnosis given when couples are unable to conceive despite a thorough evaluation that fails to identify any specific cause for their infertility. In these cases, there are no apparent abnormalities or issues with ovulation, sperm quality, or fallopian tubes, making it challenging to determine the exact reason for their infertility. It is estimated that approximately 10-15% of couples experience unexplained infertility. While the exact underlying causes are unclear, possible factors could include subtle hormonal imbalances, egg or sperm quality issues that are difficult to detect, or problems with embryo implantation.

    Dealing with unexplained infertility can be emotionally challenging as individuals and couples face the frustration of not having a clear reason for their difficulties conceiving. It may lead to feelings of confusion, disappointment, and a sense of helplessness. Emotional support from support groups or a psychotherapist can provide comfort, understanding, and guidance in navigating the emotional journey of unexplained infertility.